In today’s fast-paced world of modern dating, making a strong first impression on dating apps is key. Your profile is your first opportunity to captivate someone’s attention and showcase your personality. Here are my top tips for standing out, navigating challenges, and making meaningful connections on dating apps.

1. Your Profile is Your First Impression

Photos are your first chance to catch someone’s eye, so choose wisely! Here’s how to make your visuals work for you:

1. Good, Clear Photos: Use photos with good lighting, preferably with a plain or scenic background to make you pop. Avoid cluttered or overly busy backdrops.
2. Headshot with a Genuine Smile: Choose a photo where you’re looking directly at the camera with a warm, authentic smile. Skip the sunglasses—let your eyes do the talking!
3. Show Your Hobbies: Include a photo that visually tells your story—whether it’s playing guitar, hiking, or biking. These pictures show your passions and give others something to connect with.
4. Highlight Relationships: A photo with close friends or family can demonstrate that you value meaningful connections.
5. Full-Length Photo: Include a dressy, polished look to show that you clean up well for special occasions.

2. Use Prompts Wisely

Many dating apps include prompts—use them to your advantage! Choose a prompt that encourages interaction, such as an interesting question or fun fact about yourself. If humor is part of your personality, share a lighthearted story or an embarrassing moment (e.g., “The time I fell off a ski lift… but lived to tell the tale!”).

3. Craft an Engaging Bio

Your bio should offer a snapshot of your personality and values without overwhelming the reader. Focus on:

1. Highlighting your passions and interests.
2. Mentioning things you’re open to trying or exploring.
3. Including intriguing tidbits to spark conversation. For example, “I’ve kayaked in Alaska but still haven’t figured out how to keep my houseplants alive!”

4. Spotting Catfishes: Red Flags to Watch For

Unfortunately, not everyone on dating apps has genuine intentions. Here are common signs of catfishing to be aware of:

1. They come on very strong with excessive compliments early on.
2. They’re significantly younger (or older) than your stated preferences.
3. They push to move the conversation off the app to platforms like WhatsApp.
4. They share sob stories (e.g., lost everything in a fire, funds frozen, stuck abroad).
5. They ask for financial help or discuss cryptocurrency investments.
6. Their location claims don’t add up—ask about local knowledge (e.g., “What high school did you go to?” and follow up with “Who was your rival team?”).
7. You find them on other apps with different names or details.
8. They repeatedly cancel or no-show for planned meetups.

5. Dating on a Budget: Recession-Friendly Ideas

Dating doesn’t have to break the bank! Here are some creative, budget-friendly date ideas:

1. Attend free local events like outdoor concerts or movie nights.
2. Plan a hike or picnic at a nearby park or waterfall.
3. Visit a museum (many have discounted or free admission days).
4. Take your dogs for a walk in a dog park.
5. Cook a meal together with fresh ingredients from a farmer’s market.
6. Explore a used bookstore or vinyl record store for a nostalgic experience.
7. Work on a DIY project or plant a small garden together.

6. Navigating Busy Work Schedules

Balancing a demanding schedule with dating requires flexibility and communication. Here’s how to make it work:

1. Find Overlapping Times: Meet for lunch, breakfast, or a quick coffee if evenings are tricky.
2. Plan Small Gestures: Facetime, phone calls, or little texts can keep the connection alive.
3. Prioritize Each Other: Plan a weekend getaway or day trip to create quality time.
4. Be Intentional: Make the effort to compromise and carve out time despite challenges.

Final Thoughts

Standing out on dating apps is about showcasing your authentic self and creating opportunities for meaningful interactions. Whether through thoughtful photos, an engaging bio, or creative date ideas, your efforts will help you connect with someone who truly appreciates you. And remember—dating is a journey, not a race. Enjoy the process, and trust that the right person will recognize the amazing individual you are.

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by Roxy Zarrabl Psy.D., Mindful Dating, Psychology Today